6. She Compares You to Her Ex
Even if the comparisons seem flattering—like “you’re so much kinder than my ex”—they can reveal that her ex is still top of mind. McBain points out that this could be her way of managing guilt over lingering emotions by emphasizing your strengths in contrast.
7. She Won’t Talk About Her Ex at All
Total silence on the subject of her ex—especially when you ask—may be just as telling as constant mentions. Relationship therapist Lena Derhally explains that avoidance could stem from unresolved pain or a longing she’s not ready to confront or admit.
8. She Confuses Your Details With Her Ex’s
If she occasionally attributes memories or preferences to you that clearly belong to her ex, it shows she’s mentally blending the past with the present. Constantly referencing details from her old relationship indicates she’s struggling to stay present with you.
