SIGNS SHE HASN’T FORGOT HER EX

1. She Doesn’t Respond to Your Affection

If she seems distant or unreceptive when you try to connect emotionally or physically, it could be because she’s still emotionally tied to her ex. Psychiatrist Dr. Grant Brenner explains that someone who’s not over their previous relationship may feel guilty being intimate with a new partner—almost as if it’s betraying their former one.

2. She Seems Distracted During Intimacy

Does she avoid eye contact or seem mentally checked out when you’re together? According to Brenner, zoning out during s-ex can be a strong indicator that she’s emotionally somewhere else—possibly reliving memories of her ex instead of being present with you.

3. She Keeps Her Ex’s Keepsakes

If she’s still holding on to photos, gifts, or other personal items from her ex—even after you’ve expressed discomfort—it’s a major sign she hasn’t let go. Brenner says reluctance to part with those objects often reflects a refusal to move on, especially if she gets defensive or makes excuses about keeping them.

4. She Frequently Checks Her Ex’s Social Media

If she’s regularly scrolling through her ex’s Instagram or Facebook—even just to “see what they’re up to”—that’s not harmless curiosity. Brenner warns this is a clear sign she’s still invested in her ex’s life and hasn’t truly moved forward.

5. She’s Talking About Her Ex More Often

If she starts mentioning her ex more frequently—bringing up stories, habits, or comparisons—she could be trying to sort through unresolved feelings. Therapist Heidi McBain says an increase in ex-talk often signals an emotional process is still unfolding.